Straight Talk About Meeting Our Husband's Real Needs!

"Sometimes You Should Give Him Bacon and Eggs Instead of a Bible"

Let's Read:

Read Matthew 25:35-40


35-For I was hungry and you gave me something to eat, I was thirsty and you gave me something to drink, I was a stranger and you invited me in, 36-I needed clothes and you clothed me, I was sick and you looked after me, I was in prison and you came to visit me.'
37"Then the righteous will answer him, 'Lord, when did we see you hungry and feed you, or thirsty and give you something to drink? 38-When did we see you a stranger and invite you in, or needing clothes and clothe you? 39-When did we see you sick or in prison and go to visit you?'
40"The King will reply, 'I tell you the truth, whatever you did for one of the least of these brothers of mine, you did for me.'

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Let's Talk:

We have all read this passage many times and instantly we are ready to run out to teach Sunday school, or volunteer to feed the homeless or visit the sick at the hospital. I believe God is calling us to see our husbands as “thirsty in need of a drink” We are so quick to jump to help others when sometimes the neediest is living in our own home.

During one counseling session I was whining about my husband’s ridiculous expectation to have a cooked meal on the table when he comes home from work. Can I tell you that I am not a cook. In fact if someone could be cursed so-to-speak, you could say my cooking has been cursed. It doesn’t matter how carefully I follow every letter of the recipe, something still turns out wrong. And – get it all done at the same time--Yeah, right…not a chance. If the meat is done, we’re usually waiting on the potatoes. If the potatoes are done we’re waiting on the garlic bread. Or, we’ll sit down to start eating and I’ll burn the garlic bread because I’ve forgotten about it. “I’m just not a cook..I don't like to cook and I'm not good at it!” I would say to the counselor.

He responded, “Your husband goes to a job everyday, so that your family can have a home and nice things and you’re complaining about cooking a meal?” He was so right. I had been complaining about something so silly. I was completely humbled.

In that moment I felt God’s soft voice saying “Kristy if you do this for him it’s like you are doing it for me.”

All my efforts to get my husband to go to church or get into a small group or read this book or that book couldn’t compare to the impact that cooking him a meal every night or making sure he has clean clothes to wear, or making sure the house is picked up when he comes home, has on him.

God wants us to serve and care for our husband’s basic needs because He knows that this is precisely how our husbands will feel His love for them. So next time you feel the urge to slip a Christian book into his briefcase, slip him some cookies instead.

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Let's Pray:

Lord, you know how much I want my husband to believe and trust in you and I am sorry for the sneaky things I’ve done trying to get him to believe. Please forgive me and help me to start simply serving him and loving him by providing for his basic needs because you’ve told me that if we do these things to the least of these, we are doing it to you.

Lord, thank you for reminding me that sometimes offering a drink of water and a warm meal is more powerful than pushing a book or a Bible in his face. Thank you Lord! In Jesus’ Name, AMEN.

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If you enjoyed my Blog today, email me and let me know. Next time, I'll share some tips on how to make dinner prep less painful! Got to go get my ham out of the freezer... :)

-Kristy